Sunday, October 16, 2016

FSU Parents Weekend, 2016

One of my favorite college campuses is FSU in the beautiful Tallahassee, FL. I am in love with the live oaks and Spanish moss and the old, Spanish-style architecture.

There is a certain, laid back feel to Florida that most likely comes from the heat. It was very hot this particular weekend, especially sitting all day in a sunny football stadium. But Bill and I didn't mind too much since we got to see Braxton march with the Marching CHIEFS and watch our NC Tarheel eek in a win against the Noles. Very exciting game! We love the Seminoles, but our blood still runs Carolina blue!

The Chiefs did a great halftime show to Grease, hence the 50s costumes. Braxton can do a mean hand jive. We also hit our fav eating establishments, including Midtown Caboose, Momo's Pizza and the IHOP. 4 Rivers bbq was excellent as well!

Saturday, October 15, 2016

UKy Parents Weekend, 2016😼

I had the best time in Lexington traveling by myself to UK to visit Rachel and Cam for parents weekend. We shopped, ate, and hung out. I got a tour of the SAE house and ADPi house and saw a great football game against Vanderbilt. 

I love spending time with them. 💙❤💙 They were kind enough to include me in their pre-game festivities, including a Caturday tailgate, where I got to go back in time and experience being a college gal again. So much fun!

Memphis/Graceland Excursion

Bill and I made an impromptu visit to Memphis to attend a Covenant Eschatology bible seminar hosted by the great William H Bell of All Things Fulfilled Ministry and the foremost authority on Bible Eschatology, Don K Preston. Wonderful experience and met some great Christians from 7 different states.

Of course, we had to take a pilgrimage to Graceland, and it did not dissappoint. I loved everything about it, including the shag carpet on the ceiling of the Jungle Room.

Last stop was downtown on the riverwalk to get some famous bbq from Central BBQ. Yum!

Memphis is a beautiful city, and apparently the Willises (my peeps) are well known there, especially A W Willis, Jr. Very nice.

Saturday, September 17, 2016

A Type-A, First-Born, Empty Nester Mom's reaction to Sorority Rush!

Sorority rush is one of the most stressful experiences for any college student, particularly at a competitive university like the University of Kentucky. It is the closest many of us mamas will get to seeing our precious daughters enter a figurative beauty pageant, where their looks are on display for all the world (most importantly, the frats) to see ... and judge. 

Not only does the face need to be perfectly made up with no blemishes, but the body tan and svelte, clothes stylish but comfortable, nails done, shoes to perfection, HAIR highlighted and either straightened or gently wanded (that means curled), and teeth whitened. And of course, one must be charming and poised, with a stellar reputation and excellent grades, and must come across as interested but not too eager. A tall order, given that almost every girl/PNM is sure to fall ABSOLUTELY IN LOVE with that one special house on the first day and want soooo badly to be a part of that sisterhood.

Shew! Let the nail biting begin...

For an entire week, this mama lived and breathed sorority rush. Even though I told my daughter a hundred times not to stress, to relax and enjoy the process, to let the Lord guide her, to not listen to what her friends thought regarding top tier, mid tier, and all of that nonsense, but to go with the house that WANTED her because of the fabulous person she is ... there was a part of me that didn't believe a single word of that diatribe! Rush is important -- really, really important --- especially to girls like my daughter who are social leaders and thrive on being around people. And so the stress (and worry?) kicked in.

I started my angst by double checking the dates in the Panhellenic brochure and confirmed the schedule for each round, then reviewed my rec list, making sure I hadn't missed an important house. In my mind, I cateloged the potential outfits that my sweetie and I shopped for prior to rush, wondering which ones she would choose for each party. I stressed over her pink nail color (was it too bright?) and how she might wear her hair, worried about the frat boys jeering at her as she sprinted from house to house, and tried not to imagine her tripping on her wedges and skinning her knee.

Would the white Bid Day dress that had been so carefully hand washed and steamed still be clean and unmussed by the time bids were issued? Ugh! Would she get the house of her dreams or would she have to settle for a sorority she didn't really like? Oh, Lord, what if she got dropped by all of the houses and wouldn't even make it to Bid Day? What if no one wanted her? More UGH!

I prayed about it, dreamt about it, scoured the Internet for clues (as if that would help!), did some stalking on social media, and even perused the dreaded greekrank.com! But as Pref Night loomed before me, the stress never abated and the waiting became unbearable. Would she call me up, sobbing, or would I get the elated text message that she was still in the hunt for her favorite houses?

Some of you many be rolling your eyes, but for those of you out there who have been through the process with your daughter, you lived this as well, even if you don't want to admit it! I know it sounds ridiculous and is slightly embarrassing and a little shameful, but there is something about sorority rush that makes us mamas revert back to the insecure school girl. My husband watched the entire process and shook his head, trying to remain supportive. It seems that every conversation we had during that week (and the weeks immediately preceding) involved sorority rush and the pros and cons of Greek life.

Fortunately, for my daughter, she did get the house of her dreams, ADPi, which was the sorority she absolutely fell in love with on day one. When she sent me this picture, I burst into tears with relief - I had no idea the amount of stress I had been under.

I want what my kids want, and I want it badly for them and will move heaven and earth to get it for them, if possible. But in this case, I couldn't go to a store and buy it or dig around on the Internet and purchase if from EBay, or even come up with my own DIY version -- I had to sit back and let the process work. And it did.

Double shew!

Now that the stressful part is over, the fun begins. Parties, tailgates, formals, sisterhood, leadership, philanthropy, and all the wonderful blessings that come from being part of a sorority where one "fits" and can make a difference.

I liken it to a baby coming through the birth canal; the process is temporary and grueling, but the end result is well worth it!

Enjoy these pics!

A.D. The BIBLE Continues

This is my last movie review with ChristianFictionOnlineMagazine.com. It was a great run (seven years!), and I am very grateful to Bonnie Calhoun, the EIC, who gave me the opportunity every month to express my opinion on what was worthy of watching, whether it be on TV, Netflix, Redbox, or the big screen.

Blessings to you all!

At the Movies - My last review ...

Monday, July 4, 2016

Happy Birthday, Rachel!!🎂🎁🎈

My 4th of July baby is 19 today! What a great day to have a birthday!

The festivities lasted all weekend, starting with a girls' day of manicures, Starbucks, and shopping. Saturday was date night with Cam, and then last night we had a great dinner at our neighborhood habachi grill, Fuji Hana, followed by gifts, cake, and a mean game of Pictionary. (Bill and I came VERY close to beating those whippersnappers!)

Today, was our favorite brunch at J Christopher in Marietta, and tonight, she is off to Athens with friends. Never a dull moment in the life of a 19-year-old college gal!

Happy 4th of July, everyone!

Monday, June 20, 2016

Concussion - Movie Review

Concussion is a must-see for any parent who has put their child through the American football program.

In my household, and in many other’s across the nation, the fall months are dedicated to Friday night high school games at the local high school and Saturday college games on the big screen TV. We all love our football. Everything, from the fabulous stadiums, to the marching bands, chili cheese dogs, peanuts, and big drinks, and of course, the cheerleaders, makes it a fun event. Team loyalties are passed down to the next generation, and for some fans, the vitriol over rivalries is comparable to gang warfare. The grand prize for any player (or parent of a player) is the dream of being one of the chosen few who go all the way to the NFL to live a life of wealth and fame, even for a short time.

But in my opinion, the greatest draw in any team sport event is the hidden metaphor for one’s spiritual walk, as well as life in general. Case in point, one of the Friday family’s favorite family films is the faith-based football movie, Facing the Giants, which does an excellent job of portraying the inner, spiritual struggle that a football game relays. Fighting against an opponent who is relentless in keeping one from achieving the prize is what makes the game worth watching. And the more daunting the opposition, the better.

Based on truth, Concussion does a nice job of destroying all of this allure of American football by showing the ugly underbelly of the sport. Will Smith is excellent as Dr. Bennett Omalu, who is a Nigerian-born forensic pathologist in Allegheny County, Pennsylvania in 2002. What would make the average person squeamish, Omalu finds fascinating beyond words. To him, cutting open a cadaver for an autopsy and extracting its organs is a communal experience with the deceased whereby the truth regarding how that person lived is allowed to emerge. Omalu performs his work like a master craftsman and is persistent and unrelenting in getting the answers he senses need to be exposed. He even goes so far as to spend his own money for additional scientific testing.

It is this doggedness for the truth that enables Omalu to discover a horrific brain disorder (CTE or Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy) that seems to plague professional athletes in the high contact sports arena, particularly football. When the body of a much-beloved Pittsburgh Steelers center, Mike Webster (a great performance by David Morse), shows up on his examination table, the puzzle pieces come together. Omalu discovers that the severe brain damage associated with CTE is due to the long-term effects of repeated trauma to the head, which cause hallucinations, dementia, severe pain, unexplained bouts of rage, and suicide. With the help of the Steelers former team doctor, Julian Bailes (Alec Baldwin), and county coroner, Cyril Wecht (Albert Brooks), Omalu publishes his findings in a medical journal and waits for the reaction of the NFL.  

As expected, the powers-that-be in the big-money sports machine do not take too kindly to their beloved game being vilified by a demure, religious, quiet-spoken pathologist whose home country has no affinity for American football.  Even though they dismiss his findings, Omalu remains vigilant and discovers more NFL victims to CTE, which only bolsters his claim. Finally, the League allows his research to be presented to them at a closed-door committee meeting. But when that day arrives, Omalu is barred from the room and must rely on a third party to plead his case.

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At this point, the film takes a turn and wanders into the area of conspiracy theory, which makes for great excitement. Omalu, who has no relation to sports other than his connection with CTE victims, soon gets a taste of the extreme opposition that is pervasive on the football field. For example, the NFL harasses him with phone calls, stalkers, and car chases that place his family in harm’s way, all of which are disgraceful tactics to silence the truth. The unfairness of it all brings out the anger in the viewer; Omalu is just a simple, yet brilliant, man who has discovered the mystery behind the horrific and early demise of so many professional athletes. Heart-broken players and their family and friends ponder over how one can sink into such a terrible state at such a young age, and their agony cries out for an explanation. Armed with the truth, Omalu aims to stand firm and not buckle under the thug-like pressure that the NFL places on him to keep quiet. This man is truly an American hero.

Vindication comes when a former player-turned NFL executive commits suicide due to CTE and endorses Omalu’s findings in his suicide note. Finally, Omalu is allowed to present his research to an NFLPA conference made up of players and their families and League executives. In a clever movie moment, we see the specter of Mike Webster (the former Pittsburgh Steeler center) in the crowd, a sign that victory has been attained. Omalu work is accepted, and he is rewarded with the prestigious offer of chief medical examiner for the District of Columbia. It is no surprise that he turned it down in order to continue his work as a pathologist.

The movie makes a final statement that is very disturbing: through Omalu’s discovery, the effects of concussions in high impact sports have permeated down to the little league football field, and still the madness for the game has not abated. The final scene relays this truth very well. As Omalu heads to work, he observes a group of young boys playing football, complete with helmets and pads. As the players run toward each other, destined to collide, the crushing sound of helmets smashing against each other makes Omalu and the viewer wonder if all of his hard work really and truly mattered.

Concussion is a great film that educates, entertains, and makes one reconsider our fascination with American football! Watch it and enjoy!